TMI Tuesday

I’m thinking of adding a new post category, called I Don’t Do Memes, under which I can file all my meme posts.

But anyway….

1. Ever Googled a date, a potential date or an ex?

Definitely. I google everyone – some would say I’m a bit of an internet addict (for example, the first thing I do after my alarm goes off at 4:45am each day is to check my gmail account). So I use the web for research and info all the time, particularly as I always have google available on my ‘phone.

I’ve not really googled any potential dates, although that probably says more about my lack of potential dates than any lack of enthusiasm to research them. I often look up girls who email me on Facebook (using their email address, since most aren’t using their real names…). It’s nothing nefarious though, I just like to see a picture if there is one available – I’m quite visual.

I’ve googled every one of my ex-girlfriends, with varying degrees of success; my first girlfriend (see previous TMI) is nowhere to be found, despite having done an IT degree, and I’d love to catch up with her. At the other end of the scale is the girl I dated at Uni who googled and found me, and we’ve met up a couple of times in secret.

There is one girl I saw for about 8 months for whom searching wasn’t an option – I can’t remember her surname….

2. Do you gossip?

Sometimes. I mostly listen to gossip, rather than spread it, but it depends on the context. I’m very active in the office rumour-mill, but then working for a financial institution right now means there’s plenty of chat about what’s going on.

On a more personal level I don’t really gossip – I’m really just not that bothered by who’s doing what with whom unless I’m directly involved.

3. How many people do you completely trust?

There is nobody that I trust completely.

Why? Well, I have many things in my head and heart which make me who I am, and I don’t want to share everything with anybody. I often feel like a large portion of my life is not my own, so I vigorously defend the parts that I do have control over. I let out small drips of myself to others, sharing them around evenly between my wife, friends, family, bloggers, work colleagues, etc, but nobody is allowed access to the whole bottle.

It’s maybe fear of opening up too much and then being vulnerable, but it’s also because I’ve been badly let down by friends and family in the past so don’t want to make myself vulnerable to that again. I also like to keep some aces in the hand, so-to-speak – if people don’t know 100% of what I’m doing or thinking, where I am, or what I want, then I have an opportunity to use that to my advantage. Again, it sounds scheming or nefarious, but it’s more just a case of wanting to have options available.

Oh, and there is one other reason. I have thoughts which are dark and slightly worrying; to trust somebody might mean to share them, and to do that would mean admitting they’re real. So best to push them back under the surface and pretend they’re not in my head.

4. Have you ever had sex in car?

Gosh. This all seems frivolous after the psychological depths of Q3.

No, I haven’t. Not full penetrative sex, anyway. I’ve received (and given) oral in a car, the former while I as driving, the latter while I was parked up safely.

I’d like to, though, even if it would be a bit awkward, arms and legs everywhere and very cramped. I’d hope the woman who picks me up and drives me to some deserted multi-storey car park for hot sex will have something large like a Range Rover so it’s at least slightly practical.

5. What is your best flirting technique: innuendo, telling a dirty joke, talking about sex life, or physical contact?

Innuendo, definitely. If I wasn’t married I’d be more direct, but since I am it’s best to start gently and work up to the point where it’s unmistakably flirting from both sides. That way, if I read the signs wrong I can put it down to my gregarious personality and my usual inability to have my mouth open without inserting my foot in it.

I’m particularly poor at initiating physical contact for the same reasons, and also because I am always worried about over-stepping the mark. One of the reasons I like the idea of meeting somebody through this sort of medium/environment is that there would be no doubt at all of either side’s intentions, so the silly games and social ettiquettes of ‘real’ dating could be glossed over, allowing us to get down to the more interesting business of tongues, skin and wandering fingers much sooner.

Bonus (as in optional): How many times is the most you have ever had sex in a 24 hour period?

I remember years ago after a girlfriend came back from a 8-week summer holiday we barely left the room for 2 days. I’m pretty sure we commented on the fact that we’d made double-figures in a day. However, this was over 15 years ago, so I could be remembering with rose-tinted glasses.

In the last few years I’ve averaged about 0.00125 x per day.