Drink from the Cup

Z & Marianne wrote about cunnilingus. Z intimated that it’s not something popular amongst bloggers – which surprised me, as it’s something I rarely exclude from any writing, and it’s often the main event.

Marianne, on the other hand, was talking about the change in viewpoint to accept that at times she can just be pleasured, without having it ’spoilt’, by the (self-imposed) feeling of need/desire/duty to follow it by resiprocating the oral sex. It seems she has found enlightenment.

I long to put the goblet to my mouth and taste, it’s my favourite and most intimate activity, and what I most miss about sexual contact (far more than penetrative fucking). The view up across the body of a beautiful woman, viewed from between her thighs, whilst gently nibbling her labia or delving into her hood with the tip of a tongue is just the mot delicious thing.

But since I entered this other world I am also intrigued by the phenomenum of women not only willing to fellate, but keen, enthusiastic – even desperate – to take a man’s cock in their mouth. This is new to me; I’ve historically always been the pleasurer, endeavouring to bring a partner to a starry-eyed climax, and enjoying every second of it. The suggestion that I really could lie back and just take the lips around my shaft, without feeling a need to pleasure the lips’ owner, is a new one to me, and something I don’t quite feel comfortable with yet (which is academic until such time I’m in a scenario to have such a dilemma – but, nonetheless…). Do they really exist? Or is it just erotic fantasy which imbues them with a taste and desire for cock. I’ve not had lips around my shaft this century, and have only ever come in a woman’s mouth just once – so it just sounds too good to be true.

I suppose it shows why this place is so good, so liberating, so exciting. To communicate with others who feel similarly driven for sex, satisfaction, pleasure and gratifcation makes me realise that I am not the pervert my wife would suggest, but merely a man with a strong – yet unsated – libido.

I await the day when I move from word to physicality with glee – both to unleash the pleasures of my unstoppable tongue onto the women who want it, and also to partake of selfish pleasure – revelling in the enlightenment that sometimes to be satisfied can give satisfaction.

7 Responses to “Drink from the Cup”

  1. I do love the fact that there is pleasure to be gained from the pleasure of the person pleasuring you/one/whoever is being pleasured.

  2. Oh, this crisis of mis-matched partners…

    I agree with you about the beneficial effects and knowledge to be gained out here in sex blog land. I have also experienced what you have described except from the opposite perspective. I just assumed it was all about pleasing the man, that men just wanted a good fucking, since that is what I had experienced. And I wasn’t really that into sex, as a result. I didn’t know that there were men out there who loved nothing more than having their face between a woman’s legs and that on many occasions, they didn’t want or need anything more. This was astonishing to me. In fact, I had given up even thinking or fantasizing about cunnilingus at all because it just never happened. I didn’t even miss it because it just never really existed for me.

    But then (and here is the moral of the story) once I started seeing that my experience was short-sided and limited and that a whole big old world of fun and exploration existed, I started feeling more free myself. I started seeing things from others’ points of view. I started wanting to explore and try new things. And this kind of mindset and freedom attracts the same in return, and now I know that my pleasure, his pleasure, our pleasure is all possible.

    And now I want it all the time, in all forms, in all ways. Now I love fellatio and I love cunnilingus too. I love it all. But if you had known me even just 3 years ago, this would not have been the case.

  3. Yes, there are some women who get tremendous pleasure from sucking cock. Just as there are men (including me) who love licking pussy.

    However, since we live in a male dominated culture, our cultural expectation is that women suck cock to please men and men (rarely) lick pussy.

    Both can be nice, to the giver and the receiver.

    But they are so much better when the pleasure is mutual (i.e. I get more pleasure from licking a women’s pussy if she is enjoying it, and I get much more pleasure from having my cock sucked if she WANTS to suck my cock.) And vice versa for her.

    The Counselor

  4. Fex,

    “I just assumed it was all about pleasing the man, that men just wanted a good fucking.”

    Cultural the norm, and statistically probably true.

    But there are many of us who MUCH prefer a good fucking when our partners are enjoying it too. Who enjoy GIVING as much as RECEIVING.

    After all, playing tennis by yourself is not much fun.

    Life needs Yin and Yang.

    The Counselor

  5. Indeed, what better than knowing that if you give, you shall also receive. But it doesnt have to be that way, sometimes only one of us will be the giver and one the receiver. There also has to be variety. Who always wants sex on the basis of quid pro quo?

  6. Marianne Says:

    Fex??? Are you me???

    Yes… I agree with you, M… the sex-blogosphere can be a wonderful place to learn that one is not abnormal, not alone in one’s desires and cravings.

  7. They do really exist.

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